We need to talk about ‘difficult women’ being punished in our medical system.

Hospitals are interesting places where the rules of the real world are suspended. There is a new language to learn, unwritten and uncommunicated expectations on women and families to behave in certain ways, and punishments when the behaviour of visitors doesn't comply with the new norms. 

 Women are stripped of their names, clothes and autonomy. Rebranded 'mummy' or 'honey' because who can keep up? (I was recently working with a medical student who asked me, "if I don't call her the lady in bed 6 what do I call her?)

Making difficult decisions

In other areas of health, we might have the opportunity or feel secure in asking for second opinions, researching other options or just saying no. When we are having a baby however, quite often our default position is to give our decision making and reasoning over to the "experts". After all we don't want to make the wrong choice... and what do we know?