‘Mummy wars’ – I call bullshit

Do you breastfeed or bottle feed? Are you a SAHM or working mum? Do you co-sleep or cry it out? 

This constant separation into polarising groups is total bullshit.

The idea that the hundreds and thousands of new mothers every year will easily fall into opposing sides on every single parenting decision is the most absurd claim that has made it into urban myth.

The imperfect mum and the art of wabi-sabi.

From what I understand (and I can’t make this clear enough – I am absolutely not an expert in Japanese culture or language) this process is aligned with the concept of Wabi Sabi- or perfect imperfections. Essentially treating breakage and repair as an important element of the object’s history and journey instead of something that should be disguised or worse- cause it to be discarded.

If I read one more post about a mum breaking down I’ll cry.

I have definitely spent my share of hours being the miserable know-it-all sadly “helping” another mum by explaining that unfortunately the exhaustion she is experiencing is normal, and yes she is isolated and overwhelmed, however, her baby is healthy, growing well and acting exactly as a baby of that age should