100 ways to care for yourself (even when you have a child with you)v

Ok, so before you get excited you should know this is a list I compiled and as such there are items on here that I don’t expect everyone to relate to. (e.g. #53 and #28). And although not everything on here is possible when you are on parent duties, you could always combine a couple to see if that works (#74 & #54 are winners).

Self care is not just about bubble baths and long walks.

Mental health is more than just stress management and looking after yourself. Sometimes we need to speak with a professional. But even in this case we KNOW the importance of self care in mental health.

Ultimately finding things each day that fill our cup and help us live a value filled and focused life is important for all of us, but it can be difficult when we are always with our baby or child.

The little things that bring joy into our lives are so important. If you are not up to the big adventurous things that is fine, hopefully, you can find a few small things that you enjoy and can start to weave them into your every day. Feel free to go off script and make up your own.


  1. Washing your hair

  2. Reading a book

  3. Putting on your favourite music

  4. Going for a drive

  5. Listening to music on headphones (while walking your kids if necessary)

  6. Painting

  7. Sewing

  8. Crocheting

  9. Going to the movies

  10. Watching your favourite tv show

  11. Call your friend

  12. Organise a potluck dinner with some friends (on a school night even)

  13. Take your dinner to the park (let the kids play until time for bed)

  14. Get into bed early (and take the kids with you)

  15. Journaling

  16. Play with the rescue kittens at vets (yes this is real. A lot of vets have kittens that are up for adoption and they won’t mind if you come in and cuddle them, it socialises them which is a bonus.)

  17. Walk your dog

  18. Find a neighbours dog who is home in the day – offer to take them to the park/for a walk/cuddle on the couch.

  19. Visit your friend.

  20. Visit local aged care home -connecting with others who are lonely or volunteering to help

  21. Sing (preferably loud and to your favourite music)

  22. Get your hair cut/coloured

  23. Have a wash and blow-dry at the hairdressers

  24. Get your nails done

  25. Foot massage

  26. Take your vitamins/herbal supplement

  27. Go shopping (in person or online)

  28. Clothes swap with a friend. New for you is still new.

  29. Sculpture with clay

  30. Put the call out for a mothers helper to hold a baby/entertain a toddler for a couple of hours.

  31. Chocolate

  32. Stretches (if you are looking for something different have you seen how much is on youtube and toddlers and older kids will enjoy doing this too)

  33. Burning a candle

  34. Making a schedule

  35. Ignore your schedule

  36. Prayer

  37. Meditation

  38. Forgive others

  39. Have a glass of wine

  40. Join a mums group

  41. Visit an art gallery

  42. Clearing one space/room

  43. Visit Korean Baths/ Day spa

  44. Gardening

  45. Find a book club

  46. Read a newspaper

  47. Go to a cafe to pick up your favourite hot drink (for me that is coffee)

  48. Create an inspiration board

  49. Blog

  50. Send a care package to relatives far away

  51. Take a photo journey (walk, drive and document it)

  52. Cook-up your weekly meals with friends (think you each make one dish in bulk and share it among the 7 of you)

  53. Get a makeover at the makeup counter (might have to buy a lipstick but can possibly get some free samples)

  54. Make love

  55. Practice mindfulness

  56. Guided relaxation

  57. Find your passion and work a little on it each day

  58. Listen to a podcast

  59. Listen to books on tape

  60. Cuddle (partner, kids, puppy (see 29)

  61. Unplug- turn off the phone, internet, devices and relish in the solitude

  62. Get away! camp, cabin or any hotel.

  63. Swap kids! (yes you have to take someone else child for a while, but you do get back what you give, so the idea is you might take your friends child for a couple of hours in the morning and they take yours for the afternoon, as an example.)

  64. Forgive yourself

  65. Colour and draw (great to do it together with kids)

  66. Hire a cleaner

  67. Join a meet-up group (if nothing you want to join in see 79)

  68. Make a meetup group for something you enjoy doing.

  69. Sign up for a short course (local community college)

  70. Start online course

  71. Join a face group you have an interest in

  72. Work (if this is your joy)

  73. Create a sanctuary – find a place in your home which you can organise and decorate to be a place of solace. You can visit this area when you want a mental time out. It may be just for you or it may be open to others. This is a place you can physically go to be mindful, create, meditate, light a candle or do what feels like “time out” for you.

  74. Kiss your partner.

  75. Lay in the garden and make cloud pictures

  76. Swim

  77. Make a meal plan

  78. Clean out your “junk” drawer (you know you have one)

  79. Have a pyjama day

  80. Watch your home video library (kids love this too)

  81. Order in lunch/dinner

  82. Put on fresh bed linen

  83. Eat your breakfast outside (park, cafe, balcony – just slow down and enjoy)

  84. Get a massage (they come to you too!)

  85. Get a facial

  86. Have your eyebrows waxed/ shaped

  87. Write down all the reasons you love being a Mum.

  88. Plan an entire week of self-care (then you know what is coming next, plan one thing a day or a small thing twice a day)

  89. Reach out to a support service (Karitane, Tresillian, Breastfeeding Association, lifeline, Beyond Blue, Midwife, or your GP)






 Jennifer Hazi is a mother, midwife, childbirth educator and doula educator & mentor in Sydney, Australia.

She is really passionate about women having voices and choices in maternity care and absolutely loves working alongside women and their loved ones during this time. 

She teaches childbirth and parenting education online and in person, works clinically as a midwife and provides physical and educational support to families with new babies up to 3 months old.

Jen also speaks and writes regularly about childbearing, motherhood and transitioning to parenthood.

Find her at www.jenniferhazi.com

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